CAS
283
Dr. Frank
Stec
2/19/16
Blog post #3
In today’s lab, we watched the movie
about online dating. It was very interesting to know what people, who use
online dating services, actually think about those services and how was the
dating processes. Like was it awkward or fun? I first of all thought
online dating would ONLY cause negative consequences, since online dating
programs have a lot of possibilities of being misused, however, there were so much more successful cases than what I thought.
In the movie, the
woman who showed up first in the movie was very impressive. She got married to
her husband who is from Prague, Czech Republic where is so far away from U.S.
They chatted online for months (while he was not even good at English) and didn’t
even get to meet each other in person. However, one day she visited him in
Prague, they got married. And the second man who
appeared in the movie, he was gay. I totally understand and agree with him
using Internet to find his partner, because he said he was so afraid to come
out of the closet and find a man. The last man in the movie, he was fat and
very short. He was not confident at all, so he was not confident to find a
partner in a real life. He said the online dating websites are “where looks don’t
matter, but you fall in love with people’s minds.” It really touched me and put
aside my prejudiced feelings on dating online.
Since I started to understand people who
date online, I looked up for actual reasons how the websites work. In this
article, How to make online dating work, the authors said there is much
filtering so that people can meet whom they want (height, looks, etc.) But also,
there are a lot of (or too much) options. It’s like choosing what to eat at the
huge buffet. After reading this article, I came up with the story of one of my
best friends. He one day came up to me saying that “it was very hard to tell
you this, but I’m gay. I have to go see somebody who I met on the app right now,
because he is my ideal man!” I was so shocked, because we have been friends for
more than 5 years never recognizing it and I didn’t even know there is that
kind of app on the phone. Anyways, my friend got to know somebody who looks
exactly like he has dreamed of. I really think online dating will work very
appropriately for homosexuals.
I also found this post very interesting: Gay french man. In this, a man, who is looking for “love”
not just “sex” is asking for advices. He tried to meet many people, but didn’t
work well for him, so he has turned to online dating. He’s saying that people
on online dating apps just look for sex, but not romantic relationships. This
is the part that I have worried about online dating. People could be sexually
abused, raped, and anything that they do not want to be happened. After I read
this, I also read some comments on this post. And someone said he met his
partner on Gaydar, and he got married and lived together for 12 years, emphasizing
there is definitely chances so don’t give up.
I
really had no idea how many people try to date online and why do they do it, however, after watching the movie in
class and searching for some reasons, pros and cons really helped me to
understand and look further!
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